I was asked an excellent question earlier this week. Oftentimes when I recommend that someone prays, they go "But I don't know how to?" with a hint of embarrassment in their tone. There is a lot of fears and misunderstandings around it because we tend to associate prayer with religion but really, it doesn't have to be a religious act. Prayer is a tool that you can use regardless of your belief system.
Whether you pray to Jesus, Allah, Yahveh, Thor, Shakti, Hecate, Quetzalcoatl or Satan really doesn't matter. Your beliefs are the fruit of your own experience and they are not to be judged, ever.
Prayer is an act of surrender, not weakness. You are opening your heart, stating that you need help and that you are ready to receive it.
So how does one pray? It's entirely up to you but I can give you a few tips to figure it out. First, who/what are you praying to? Who/what do you feel the most comfortable addressing at this time? I don't always pray to the same entity. Sometimes I'll pray to my guardian angel, sometimes to Isis, sometimes to Jesus, sometimes to myself!
Then, what do you need help with? Make a clear statement. Be thorough and don't be afraid of talking too much. You will get emotional. That's very good. If you start crying it means you are praying with all your heart, which is the home of the soul and guarantees that your prayer will be heard. In my experience, a prayer with tears holds a lot of power!
Don't worry about following a script. A prayer doesn't have to be this beautiful poem; it needs to flow and feel natural and easy. Do what feels right for you, always. You will know when you are done. You should feel a sense of relief from opening your heart and surrendering your will to the powers that be. You will feel the warm embrace of the universe and you will know you were heard. If you have any doubts, ask to receive a sign that your prayer was heard.
You can pray in your head or you can say it out loud, it works the same. It's all about the strength and authenticity of your intention. Do not be afraid to be vulnerable. A prayer is a statement and a release. Be as honest as possible. It's all in the heart, babes.